COMMUNICATION 101 – Breaking the Ice
When messaging someone for the first time on facebook:
1. Hi first name
Their name is important to them. They feel complimented and
special when you use it. Note: Be careful not to OVER-use it.
2. Tell them where you found them and establish common ground,
stating why you both think alike or have the same interests.
(Ex: I found you in the “xx group” and I see we’re both interested in helping people.)
3. Compliment them genuinely
(by glancing at their FB profile and finding something that you like.)
4. Ask THEM to add you as a friend and give them the reason why
(Example: … so that we can continue sharing tips and ideas.)
Note: FB has a limit of how many friends you can add each day and also a limit of 5,000
5. Wrap it up with a question
(Example: “How has your day been so far?” or “I’m looking forward to getting to know you better.”)
6. End it very friendly.
Example:
Your new friend,
YOUR NAME HERE
Some tips:
It’s best to add your OWN personality to connect with people.
After all, you can’t be somebody else; you’re the only YOU in the whole world! 🙂
Be yourself.
Be genuine.
Only say what feels “right” to you.
ALWAYS be Honest and Sincere.
Have FUN with it.
(Mindset is very important – but that’s another subject)
Set a goal to start conversations with 5, 10, 20 a day (Whatever you feel you can do)
Keep records of number of contacts made ’til you hit your DAILY goal.
DAILY, CONSISTENT ACTION will give you RESULTS.
The more people you CONNECT with, the better your results will be.
That’s how it’s done!
P.S. and this is the MOST IMPORTANT part:
Never, ever give your link to them until they WANT it.
You have to be INVITED into their world…
As you continue the conversation back and forth,
you will just be getting to know THEM and what they like
and what they do.
When they reciprocate and ask you what YOU do,
be careful not to say too much. Just a few words to
stir their curiosity and then ask them another question.
Ex: “I help people get out of debt and start living the
lifestyle they really want!”
or “I have a program that helps people create the
lifestyle they really want.”
Don’t “throw up” all over them – and give them ALL the
information!
Don’t even mention the NAME of the company
until they WANT it!
Don’t appear NEEDY!
They will ask again if interested.
Wait ’til they’re almost BEGGING you to know more
and til they ASK for your link!!
It’s a communication skill that most people get wrong.
Most entrepreneurs just want to hurry to give them
the link.
**** Establish the relationship FIRST. ****
Get to know what the other person NEEDS and WANTS.
If what you have fills the need and solves THEIR problem,
suggest they take a look. That it may just be the
thing they are looking for!
Stay tuned!
Tags: breaking the ice, communication, connect with people, connecting, first email, first message, rapport
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